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Joshua
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Last active: 5 days ago

49 Hounslow, London (Greater), United Kingdom

Male / Separated / ID: 3699361

Seeking Female 25 - 35 For: Romance / Dating, Long Term Relationship

Last active: 5 days ago

Overview

Joshua

He's Looking For

Education:

High School
Any

Have children:

Yes - don't live at home
Any

Drink:

Occasionally drink
Any

Smoke:

Don't smoke
Don't smoke

Religion:

No religion
Any

Occupation:

Fire / law enforcement / security
Any

Member Overview

WARNING: THIS IS A LONG PROFILE! (you have been warned now! :-) ) Hi, and welcome! :) Let me give you two options, and make it easy for you:I'll give you a "SHORT PROFILE" first... and then, if you like what you read, you can keep scrolling and read more in the "LONG PROFILE" which follows af...
WARNING: THIS IS A LONG PROFILE! (you have been warned now! :-) ) Hi, and welcome! :) Let me give you two options, and make it easy for you:I'll give you a "SHORT PROFILE" first... and then, if you like what you read, you can keep scrolling and read more in the "LONG PROFILE" which follows after that. Deal? Damn right it is! 👍 Ok... let's dive in and get started with the 'SHORT PROFILE'! You ready? GO!! -------------- SHORT PROFILE: -------------- I'm 48 years old, but I don't look it. I blame my mother's wonderful genetics, and her teaching me the importance of laughter, and not taking things too seriously (I often joke that I'm not really 48, but 18... and I've been practising being 18 for 30 years now, so I've gotten pretty good at it! 🤭). Believe it or not, but I've never been married. I had a 21 year relationship which ended about about 2.5 years ago. I have a 15 year old son, who also lives here in London, with his mother. I'm deeply passionate, a total romantic, and genuinely very thoughtful. These are traits I truly embody, and at the same time, I'm also highly sensual and intensely sexual; you are a woman, and I will make sure you feel like one, in every way! I'm a non-smoker, and if you're a woman who smokes, I'm sure you're a wonderful lady but... you'll make it a real struggle for me to share your space together. So please quit! :) 🚭 I'm half Italian / half American (I hold dual citizenship and 2 passports 🇮🇹🇺🇸), and I also speak French 🇫🇷 and Spanish 🇪🇸, in addition to my native Italian / English. I live in London, but I'm an adventurer; who knows if I'll stay here forever? I would much enjoy moving to a location with a warmer climate and by the sea... (much like my own native city!). I worked as a Prisoner Escort for the Ministry of Justice, and now work as a Close Protection Operative (which means 'bodyguard'). 😎💪 I am looking for a woman to share our lives together... but I'm certainly not desperate, nor am I going to rush into it without knowing her, and feeling a connection to her.⚠️ Age is NOT a factor. You may be just 20 or even 50, but this doesn't matter because connection and feelings know no age - maturity or an exciting personality are not tied in to a number! 💘 And don't even think about scamming me; a cute 18 year old sexy girl doesn't make me go crazy. You've been warned... lol. 🤣 Also, I get way too many messages; I simply can't answer them all. 📨 So, one line messages, vacant profiles, or monosyllabic replies... sorry, but I can't engage you. I'm making an effort, so I need you to do the same. 🏆🥇 You don't have a picture? See the previous point. 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨Besides, how in the world do you expect to be successful on a dating site without a photo??🤷🏼‍♂️ (And while your picture can grab my attention AT FIRST, you MUST understand that only your personality shining throughout our conversations will keep my interest! This is fundamental.) *********** Ok, so you got through that 'Short Profile'! Well done! 🎉 Congratulations! 🥇🏆 Now you can move on to the 'Long Profile'... if you dare! (No, really... DO read the Long Story, too. It's worth it! I promise! If you don't, you'll miss out on discovering all my amazing awesomeness! *shameless self propaganda*) 😉 ------------------------- 'LONG PROFILE' ------------------------- (...and with second warning: it's long!! So no excuse now... lol) So.... I told myself that in order to intrigue you, I had to write a brief bio that was: full of humour, thoughtful, deep, spiritual, original, powerful, articulate, elegant... something compelling and captivating. How can I stand out, and catch your attention, amidst so many other men who are billiionaires, look like Brad Pitt, and have a 12-pack abs showcasing their best? This Shrek must find some way to compete against all these other 'Christian Grey' opponents!! But there was no way was it going to be a BRIEF bio, if I did that. And in thinking through these considerations... I realised I had just described myself. A thinker gifted with intellect and reason, a man who appreciates the pursuit of knowledge per se - whether academic, technical, or more abstract. And a natural, genuine man who is comfortable with himself, sorted, and emotionally stable. I enjoy observing the world around me, and indeed, even observing how other people observe one another; it teaches us much about not being judgmental. I'm 48 years old, but my boyish looks easily allow me to look 10 or more years young on a good day, and my spirit, energy, and interests are even more contemporary. Most of my friends and social circle consist of people in their late 20s and early 30's - I'm just "young" inside, but experienced, grounded, and mature! Honestly, you couldn't get more genuine proof that age truly is just a number. I consider this youthfulness an extraordinary blessing from my mother, since I inherited her genetics, and she taught me to never take things too seriously in life. I worked as a Detainee Custody Officer with the Home Office, in a small unit. I then worked as a Prisoner Escort for the Ministry of Justice. Today, I work in the Private Security industy as a Close Protection Officer (aka 'bodyguard'). I can say I love that it challenges me everyday to be fair, impartial, and be able to build rapport with people from all walks of life, but also to be tough, alert, and ready to react. It's a continual growth process. Plus, I admit that being an adrenaline junkie, I totally love the thrill of the risk! Seriously! Over the last 3 years, I have been building a successful financial trading business for myself, and I am at the point where in the next 6 months I will be able to live very comfortably and without without any financial worries, thanks to the income I generate. My success in this will allow me to follow my dreams now that I am still young, and live a richer, more varied life full of exciting new experiences. I love freedom, and the ability to express my own personality. I see life as a journey in which my goal is to grow and evolve, but I am not materialistic - I recognise that abundance comes as a result of success... and have enjoyed some of the perks that have come with it, even though in the past I've found myself in some periods of struggle. I am a non-smoker, I have never been married (despite a long relationship). My friends would readily call me an engaging conversationalist, a bit of a joker with a sharp sense of humour, a gentle demeanour, a calm vibe, and someone who's light-hearted and never taking myself - or anything - too seriously. But they also said, 'Josh is a unique mix between: a racing car, an excited puppy, and the secret surprise hiding behind door number 3...' (really! I asked them to define me, and this is what they came up with!). I'd say they pretty much nailed it, although there is more: I would define myself as fair, altruistic, keenly observant, supremely patient, and diplomatically honest. I don't like failure, I do not condone laziness, and am not one who is content on settling for mediocrity. Non-confrontational by nature, I do prefer defusing a situation through communication and a respectful open-mindedness... but if that fails, or I witness a wrongdoing or injustice, I will fight with every ounce of determination I possess, to stand up for what is fair, and protect what is dear to me. And that includes you: if the going gets tough, you can count on me to loyally be by your side, and we will "get through this" together. I am gentle and calm, but don't make the mistake of thinking that also means weak or scared; it doesn't, at all. I've just become very good at communicating and understanding others, so that I can sort things out peacefully. But if needed, the warrior within is ready to protect. In my life's experiences, I have forged a strong and courageous heart - this is true - but life has also taught me to be compassionate, show undying loyalty, dream of beautiful romance, and be joyously warm of character. Though there is depth and intellect to my character, I am actually rather simple and uncomplicated. I'm equally prone to laughing at you because you knocked over a priceless vase at a museum, just as I can be up all night talking with you - and LISTENING to you - as you share your passion with me for marine biology. Yes, I have put on some weight since my younger days, but I am in the process of regaining my shape. When I'm at peak fitness, I tend to be very physical, and usually have a tremendous energy level, but don't let that scare you - I do not expect you to follow me to Mt. Everest next Sunday morning, and be back in time for tea! However, please understand that sometimes I may need my own space and downtime, as you will certainly need yours. So, while tonight it's snuggles on the sofa with Netflix, a duvet, and chocolate muffin crumbs all over the place... tomorrow it's the gym, and roaming about the city living the excitement of life's wonders! It's always a question of balance; no extreme is good.
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FIRST OF ALL, LET ME EMPHASISE THAT NOTHING I WRITE IN THIS SECTION IS A "LAW" OR AN ABSOLUTE REQUIREMENT, SO PLEASE DON'T BE UNSURE OR HESITANT ABOUT MESSAGING ME. (Seriously, contact me anyway - I promise I won't bite... unless you ask nicely, in private! :) ) I don't have a shopping list about...
FIRST OF ALL, LET ME EMPHASISE THAT NOTHING I WRITE IN THIS SECTION IS A "LAW" OR AN ABSOLUTE REQUIREMENT, SO PLEASE DON'T BE UNSURE OR HESITANT ABOUT MESSAGING ME. (Seriously, contact me anyway - I promise I won't bite... unless you ask nicely, in private! :) ) I don't have a shopping list about what my lady 'must be' or 'must have', even though we all have our ideal DREAM companion, our mythical unicorn... don't we? Of course we do! But we also know, unicorns don't really exist. So... I will most likely be attracted to you if you are a playful and well-educated, intellectual lady who is deeply romantic and gentle, fiery and passionate, and who is also willing to be patient with me as I learn your language, and more about your culture. If you can do that, I promise to make it worth your time. As someone who loves children and would like to have more children of our own together, a younger lady of child-bearing age would be ideal. But age REALLY is not a big deal, and I sincerely have no issue with a woman who already has children of her own - please allow me to be clear on that. I believe, all children are a wondrous blessing, regardless whose they are, and they all deserve love, respect, and protection. You have my appreciation and respect because you're a good woman who is genuine, caring, and simple, with a compassionate heart. And you're woman with dignity, who shows respect to herself first of all. Also, sincerity, truth, commitment, and a strong sense of family are fundamentally important to me, as I am certain they are for you as well.. I am such a hopeless, dreamy romantic - almost like a film! - so if you are not keen on such gentleness and tenderness, you may wish to look elsewhere. Because you will be my princess, and I will shower you with the love, care, and respectful dignity you deserve. I will hold your hand every hour of the day, I will kiss and caress you every hour of the evening, and I will hold you in my arms every hour of the night as you sleep. You'll find scribbled notes in your jacket pocket that say, "Smile, I love you!" while you're out with your friends. Or maybe just a spontaneous phone call to tell you, "My love, I'm thinking of you." Or that unexpected text when you're working late, to say, "I miss you and can't wait for you to get home!" (and you'll have a delicious dinner waiting for you... which you will enjoy as I massage your feet). That moment when I greet you at the door, and cover you in playful kisses. Your are my princess, and I will spoil you like one. If I can make your eyes shine brighter than the light of a thousand stars in the sky, and make your laughter ring more merrily than the songbirds at sunrise, then I am being everything I hope to be for you. It's not only sweet romance, though. I'm very highly sexual, deeply passionate, and intensely physical. I enjoy making love, and I will ensure that you never see our intimacy as a chore, but rather, as something that you can't wait to get to the bedroom to enjoy together, again and again. Your pleasure, your satisfaction, and the total fulfillment of your inner desires is my duty to you, and also my privilege. This is unconditional. I am not here to take advantage of you, and I promise to never leave you feeling disappointed, used, or degraded. As an attentive lover, I am instinctive, choosing to abandon myself to you without inhibitions. When I touch you, I am responsive to YOUR body and attuned to YOUR feelings; I want to rock your world, and leave you breathless... every single time. Because you're a woman, and you expect to be treated like one. Throughout my journey to master the game of seduction, I've learned many talents in the sexual arts that will blow your mind and utterly delight you. And because you are my one and only centre of attention, I will make sure you find unimaginable bliss and delight in every sensual moment of our intimacy. Consider me to be your personal L'Oréal experience... because you're worth it! ;) Oh, wait... did you believe it was just romance and good intimacy that I have to offer? NO! There's MORE! A practical and cerebral aspect to our relationship is necessary; you don't build a solid foundation just on sex and romance, and I bring this perspective to our union as well. I believe we must have the chance to discover joy and fulfillment together, strengthening our bond and loyalty by overcoming the difficult moments as a team, without drama and open communication in a non-judgmental way... especially with any challenging and uncomfortable issues that may arise. I will trust you There is no shouting. There is no ill word spoken. There is no violence. There is no psychological abuse. We are adults, and that is not how adults act; genuine care and respect is fundamental. Over the course of time, not only will we explore each other's bodies, but we will also appreciate each other's minds, opinions, thoughts. We will support one another's dreams, encouraging our personal evolution as individuals, and a result, also as a couple. By loving each other faithfully and nurturing our precious time together, we will make it blossom into complete and magnificent union full of treasured moments... a love that is what the stuff of dreams and legends are made of! The only question is, who will share that journey, the joys, and those rewards with me? Could it be YOU? We won't know unless you message me! I'm waiting... ;)
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More About Me

Joshua

He's Looking For

Basic

Gender:
Verified
Male
Female
Age:
For privacy reasons, age is accurate to within 2 weeks
Verified
49
25 - 35
Lives in:
Verified
Hounslow, London (Greater), United Kingdom
Any
Relocate:
Willing to relocate to another country
Any

Appearance

Hair color:
Brown
Any
Eye color:
Green
Any
Height:
5'7" (171 cm)
Any
Weight:
84 kg (185 lb)
Any
Body style:
Few Extra Pounds
Petite,Slim,Athletic
Ethnicity:
Caucasian (White)
Black,Asian
Body art:
None
Any
Appearance:
Average
Any

Lifestyle

Drink:
Occasionally drink
Any
Smoke:
Don't smoke
Don't smoke
Marital Status:
Separated
Any
Have children:
Yes - don't live at home
Any
Number of children:
1
Any
Oldest child:
15
Any
Youngest child:
No Answer
Any
Want (more) children:
Yes
Any
Have pets:
No Pets
Any
Occupation:
Fire / law enforcement / security
Any
Employment status:
Full Time
Any
Annual income:
£80,001 - £200,000 (GBP)
Any
Living situation:
Live Alone
Any

Background / Cultural Values

Nationality:
Verified
Italy
Any
Education:
High School
Any
Languages spoken:
English,French,Italian
Indonesian
English ability:
Fluent
Any
Indonesian ability:
None
Any
Religion:
No religion
Any
Chinese sign:
Don't Know
Any
Star sign:
Aquarius
Any

Hobbies & Interests

Entertainment:

Beach / Parks, Camping / Nature, Cars / Mechanics, Computers / Internet, Education, Music (Listening), Meditation, Motorcycles, Philosophy / Spirituality, Reading, Science and Technology, Traveling, Video / Online Games, Writing

Food:

Seafood, Indian, Italian, Thai, Vegan

Music:

Jazz / Blues, Rap, R'n'B / Hip Hop, Rock

Sport:

Athletics, Gym / Weight Training, Gymnastics, Martial Arts, Rugby, Soccer, Yoga / Pilates

More About Me

Favorite Movie:

Oooh, that's a tough one! So many to list! How about... 'Before Sunrise', 'Schindler's List', 'Lost in Translation', 'Rocky 1', 'Fame', 'Grease', 'Scarface', 'Ghost', 'Forrest Gump', 'Full Metal Jacket'... There are many more, but they're just not coming to me at the moment! I'll have update and add to this later.

Favorite Book:

This is even more difficult than picking films! I'm an avid reader, and I generally enjoy the mystery or legal thriller genre. The book that had the most profound impact on me is probably "You Can't Hurt Me" by David Goggins. And I've never laughed as hard as I did when I read "The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy". One book that sticks out in my mind, is "River God" by Wilbur Smith; I nearly cried when... oh, you haven't read it? Ok, I won't spoil it for you, then! ;)

Favorite Food:

I've been transitioning to a whole-food, plant based diet. Vegan, basically. However, I do like spicy and rich tastes, such as Middle Eastern, Chinese, Mexican, Indian, and Thai. And, of course, the food from my home country: Italy!

Favorite Music:

Depends a lot on the mood, but I am genuinely eclectic in tastes. Jazz, Reggae, Salsa, Hard Rock, and Old Skool HipHop / Rap are usually my main genres... though I do also relax with Classical, Celtic, and New Age.

Dress Style:

Fashionable, but practical and not too elaborate.I can readily adapt to most occasions, going from gym clothes to 3-piece suit as needed. I really like accessories (glasses, watches, jewelry, etc.) and I'm crazy about men's fragrances - I have more perfumes at home than most shops! I usually keep my hair short, my face clean-shaven or with a goatee, and I do change my look frequently, so... you never know what you'll get!

Humor:

Typically British, even though I'm Italian. My sense of humour is very dry and intellectual, sometimes laced with sarcasm. It's usually very much to the point and situational. Oh, and definitely irreverent!

Hobbies & Interests:

Reading (a LOT!), observing people, self-development, meditation, and deep, engaging discussions on any range of topics; I just love the mental exercise and communication. I enjoy motorbike travels, boxing and football, writing, and composing music (I play piano and saxophone). I also have interest or enjoy: computers and tech, spirituality, learning foreign languages, walking in nature (beach, forest, mountain), veganism, neuro-linguistic programming... I'm naturally curious, so a lot of things interest me!

Travelled:

I've visited parts of North Africa, and I've traveled to almost every country in Western Europe, so I won't list them here (too long!), I've also lived in Italy, Germany, Ireland, the UK, Portugal, and United States. Would love to travels to a different area entirely now, and visit India, Thailand, Vietnam, Japan, Indonesia, the Philippines, New Zealand... and lastly, South America!

Cultural Adaption:

Completely adaptable, totally flexible! Besides, I'm mixed culture myself, since my father is American, and my mother was Italian. I find it exciting, having a chance to learn something new, enrich my own understanding, and be a part of a diversity.

Romance:

So, I'm going to assume we've been dating a while, as no one would do a whole weekend away as a first date! Ok... I would take you to Paris, where I'll book a room on the top floor of the hotel, with a view over the magnificent and romantic City of Lights. We will take a lazy riverboat cruise down the Seine River, then have dinner at "this little gem" of a restaurant that I know, away from tourists... with soft French accordion music, piano and violin, as the sun sets. Afterwards, I'd have an artist sketch you on a canvas, to capture your beauty and forever treasure this moment of our time together. Then we'll walk hand-in-hand back to the hotel, along the cobbled streets of the city, under the romantic glow of the streetlamps. On our bed, we will laugh and giggle, teasing each other between the spontaneity of engaging, mind-blowing conversation. Suddenly, I kiss your lips, and we make love with intense passion and desire deep into the night... before we collapse in each other's arms until the sunrise. When we wake up, we have breakfast with a delicious chocolate croissant (or three!!), to enjoy with a nice French coffee, as we sit at the table of this street-side pâtisserie. I'll take pictures of you, then lean in close and ask you, "Now... what would YOU like to do today, my dear?" :-)

Personality:

I think my friends summed it up best when they said, "Josh is what you would get if you mixed together a loud racing car, an excitable and playful puppy, an encyclopedia full of surprising knowledge, and the mystery prize hiding behind door number three!' As far as adjectives are concerned, let's say... aware, observant, calm, understanding, curious, passionate, sensual, open, trustworthy, charismatic, extroverted, confident, a great listener and good communicator, compassionate, with a strong moral sense of right and wrong.

My Perfect Match is:

Intelligence and strong, confident personalities really attract me. I am not intimidated by a woman who is successful. I appreciate a good communicator, and someone who is not judgmental. Also a woman who is in tune with her feelings, who knows how to show her emotions, a deeply romantic and sensual lover. And don't ever take yourself or anything too seriously - just laugh! Don't stress over small things, or the big things, no matter how bad - just smile and deal with it!. Be a great conversationalist, an intellectual who is open to exploring new ideas, and never be judgmental. Don't be set in stone about 'roles'; it's the 21st century, madame! Be eager to 'grow' your mind and knowledge, don't let 'new' scare you. Don't worry about petty things like 'wanting your own time' or 'needing a quiet moment', because I need those too sometimes! Don't try to 'read between the lines' with me - I'm as transparent and direct as you'll ever get it, all at face value for what it truly is. Don't shy away from being tender, romantic and caring... and kisses, oh yes, lots of kisses! And definitely don't believe the "hype" about sexless relationships, because no one ever consulted ME on that matter! :-)

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